When Felice was studying
counseling in graduate school, she
was told by one of her professors that "to be a good counselor, you
to be in counseling." Following this advice, Felice began
counselor following her graduation. She has continued
throughout the years, and during her marriage Felice and her husband
participated in marital counseling.
"I never want it to appear that I am on a pedestal," Felice says.
"I want my clients to know that, as a counselor, I am not
life's challenges and have learned a great deal from my own counselor."
When appropriate, Felice believes in self-disclosure, sharing
her own experiences
with her clients if she believes it would be helpful.
A common complaint Felice hears from clients with previous counseling
experience involves counselors who merely offered a " supportive ear"
rather than suggesting a course of action which would benefit the
While this type of "active listening" therapy was certainly
norm years ago, the contemporary approach addresses a desire on the
part of the
clients for a more interactive form of therapy, one in which the
direction to the client through feedback, opinions, and even
"homework" assignments. Accordingly, Felice's counseling
is based on a foundation of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and
Focused Therapy (SFT), both of which involve direction and guidance by
"Life can be hard," Felice says, ”and my goal is to transport
clients to the other side of whatever issue it is that they bring to
counseling. Ultimately, they will be stronger because of the
and they will be able to appreciate the personal growth that their
forced them to make. Sometimes life pushes us, kicking and
of our comfort zones, and when that happens, the goal is to end up in